Solace by Rhea
Christine Rivera
Leslie Codilan
Solace by Rhea
Sara Haseeb
It is a good argument to start with.
As I mature, my rationale for marriage became different. There is no right and wrong anyway. Ethically we have this thought that our spouse should be our best friend. From my vow, I remember saying; Today, I will marry my best pal. C’mon in marriage, you share sorrows, happiness, and household duties; with friends, you do not share those accountabilities. Otherwise, through time the relationship becomes platonic.
Her Majesty, Queen Elizabeth addressed Prince Philip as her strength and not her best friend. A good listener, she values his views as this has been express in a forthright manner.
With what is going on right now with social distancing etc, the modern couple now has narrowed friends if not fewer pals than they did generations ago. We tend to withdraw sometimes from our social network since we know we are complete. I acknowledge I have a smaller group of besties; however, I must say good sets of comrades. I know there might be situations when I need someone to lean on, and my spouse isn’t the right fit.
No spouse — no matter how wonderful, thoughtful, attentive, smart, funny — could fill the dual roles of both partner and best friend - Amanda FitzSimons
More than Friendship
Repeatedly, my husband’s humor brings my amusement every time he asks me to connect with my friends in the middle of our argument. And consistently roast me to keep my fables and share them with my girlfriends instead LOL. I plainly took it when I say he is my best friend wherein it shouldn’t be. I was flustered calling him my best friend too many times that it might stick and end up sticking that way. Our love and hate relationship is peculiar, it is personal and absolute. I would say, ours is not divine however pure. Growing old together gauges both couple’s maturity, or I must say resilience in my language plus loads of devotion.
- Truly extraordinary and successful relationships don’t come to people because they are lucky, unusually well-matched, completely similar or drowning in great chemistry. Extraordinary, loving, long-lasting, healthy relationships are the products of hard work, determination and the applied practice of the laws of love. – Tony Robbins
- Marriage is a partnership, and there are many roles that husband and wife negotiate, using their strengths to maintain a rewarding relationship. – John Maxwell
- “Having a partner who is your best friend can be sweet, but it doesn’t have to that way,” says psychologist Scott Bea,PsyD. “Culturally, we have this idea that our spouse should be our best friend – but there’s no single template for a successful marriage.
So, should your spouse be your best friend? Well it is an open-ended question. In social realm, Impressions are mixed, which side are you?
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Dr. Elise Ho
The answer to me is clear. You should absolutely have a best friend. That best friend should be you!!!
Meki
My hubby and I talked about this before and agreed that we should be each other’s BEST friends. That’s not to say that we won’t have other close friends, but if I am revealing more of my heart to someone else — then I am robbing my marriage of intimacy. Just my two cents 🙂
Ivan Jose
I consider my wife to be my best friend. I confide to her things that bother me or things that I’m afraid of. I do my best to tell her my thoughts.
Ivan Jose
I think people who get to find a spouse who is their best friend are lucky. They know each other deeper and they have mutual respect for each other.
Melanie Frost
My husband is my best friend. Other friends have come and gone, but he has always been my rock through it all
yudithnapitupulu
Calling the person you’re married to your best friend may be shorthand for saying that you actually like your spouse and that you have shared history, shared lives and shared dreams. But in the end, the expression doesn’t do justice to the full meaning of marriage or to the full meaning of friendship
Angie Rose
I completely agree. Although a spouse can be a best friend, it can be so much more than that. It’s definitely a multi-layered relationship, but having friendship being one of those layers is important!
emman damian
I think your spouse is your best friend as you are always together. You share all secrets and you both fight together. It’s a good thing to have open communication.
CA
I believe that having your spouse as your best friend is very important since a foundation of any relationship has to be very strong to weather any storms. However, I believe that we should also have another best friend outside of the marriage so that we can also have someone to turn to when we are not in good terms with our partner and get a balanced perspective from another person.
Ramil Hinolan
My wife will always be my best friend. I confide everything that bothers me.
Kenneth
Of course who else would it be for better or worse..my wife will be my best of friend
Jenn @ EngineerMommy
This one is an easy one. I definitely think we should be our spouse’s best friends. We spend so much time together so it only makes sense that we have a lot in common and have similar interests.
Sally
That is a very good question and several people will answer differently. I think they are more than a best a friend. It is a different relationship than a best friend.
bye:myself
It’s good when the spouse happens to be also your best friend, however, I think there is nothing wrong with having a best friend for a best friend 😉
Neha
It is indeed a blessing to have your spouse as your best friend! But having a few other good friends adds to a balanced life too. And of course you yourself can be your best friend!
Monidipa
Having a partner who is your best friend can be sweet, but it doesn’t have to be that way,” says psychologist Scott Bea, PsyD. “Culturally, we have this idea that our spouse should be our best friend — but there’s no single template for a successful marriage
Agnes Dela Cruz
This kind of situation is a case to case basis, some can apply this kind of scenario or relationship but for me I guess it’s not. There is always that boundary of feelings and emotions that applies.
knycx
For me, I think so. But then again, there are many (and different ways) to interpret friendship but it’s the support you have from your spouse that counts – knycx journeying
Aimee amala
My partner is my bestie too and I love her so much more for it.
Lyosha Varezhkina
for me spouse should be if not a best friend but a close friend for sure. in Modern days we no longer need a partner to survive (financially and in terms for work) and sex as the reason for marriage is no longer valid (now we are free to have sex without relationship if we want to), many people choose relationship without kids or can not have kids and in general kids have never been the sole reason for good happy marriage. These day we no longer need to have a spouse we occasionally see and know little about, we have spouse to share lives. It is impossible to share lives and thoughts with people who are not into similar things and not on the same page. it moves you have close to definition of friendship.
Christianforemost.com
I guess that I’d have to be in an actual relationship to understand this. I just hope that my partner and i will stay by each other’s side and grow together you know?
marjiemare
My hubby is my best friend and like any best friend, mutual respect is priority.
Alexis
Yes, your spouse should be your best friend. Thank you for this article.
Travel See Write
Hell yes! I think for any relationship to be strong, more so in the case of a partner, friendship plays a key role in keep the two together.
DESTINY
The answer is obvious. Marriage is also choosing someone who’ll be your best friend forever. That would be the toughest decision you’ll ever make in your life. But it must be rewarding when you found the one. So choose wisely or you might end up being frenemies 😀
aisasami
Love that quote by John Maxwell because it is 100000% true! Marriage is a partnership and not just a one-sided street.