Solace by Rhea
Christine Rivera
Leslie Codilan
Solace by Rhea
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I recall leslie (My BFF) had told me to write something about LDR, I replied saying why not.
Here it goes….
Apparently, absence really does make the heart grow fonder. My husband and I are no strangers to a long-distance relationship; and thru ups and downs, we finally managed how to make our relationship work. We didn’t even know who we beat it. To tell you honestly, it’s not simple! However, there’s a big difference between simply “surviving” and “cherishing” the relationship. Of course, rough times is inevitable. No matter who you are, your relationship status, or how confident you are! Maintaining an LDR is complicated at least. The goal is not to survive, like in any relationship – you want it to grow. We’ve been there, we used to be geographically separated for most of our dating days, and first years of our marriage life. I believe that you need to strengthen your emotional connection to ease the ache of LDR. It’s a bittersweet, one thing for sure is that, it was all worth it. Finally, starting a life together was a bizarre feeling.
In LDRs, couples require to bemore deliberate about loving one another- and most like hard labour, you reapthe bonus on the end.
Our Independence shaped us
I progress enormously as aperson, I know how to value my own self-worth. Me and my husband were able to grow and develop our individual characters. We have our own set of friends and we were able to discover our own set of passion in life. I took advantage of the opportunity of singlehood and engaged myself to be more productive. You not only exercise your independence but independence on one another. This totally, help create a very healthy relationship dynamic.
Communication thru positive affirmation
I became more expressive. In every chance that I get, I always affirm my affection to my husband. If every company has rewards and recognition program to engage employees, then why not I extend it to my loving partner – words of affirmation made him feel the best and I blame him for making me happy! I learned to adjust, he isn’t much of a talker, wherein I seem to have and endless amount of words. It took me a while to get used to it. I believe quality communication rather than quantity make helps to build s solid framework to allow your relationship to grow and flourish.
Sharing boring things
Now that were together. Grocery now looks a fun bonding and strolling in the mall is now considered a date.When I’m at work, I must call him even he has nothing to say and I end up asking what he had for lunch etc. I know it’s boring stuff, but I appreciate it now more than anything. Now trips to Gym and “brands for less” were something we really looked forward to. Also, shared sense of humour is tied to relationship success.
Grocery now looks a fun bonding and strolling in the mall is now considered a date.
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The most important thing is LDR should be temporary!
“Just because things are not at their best right now does not mean that we should give up. Gold is tested in fire and something precious like love needs distance to be tested.”– Olga Peters
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Tammie Reinhart
I agree with you that long distance relationships can be extremely hard, but if both people work at it, they can overcome all the obstacles!
Chad
I’ve been in a long distance relationship and it didn’t work out for me, it was too difficult to handle. But as you said, communication is key.
stephsocial.com
Long distance is such a challenge but trust and good communication are key!
Dalene Ekirapa
Some people just never make it in LDR…I think it’s because they are not deliberate with the relationship as you say. And also, communication is just so key to keep the fire.
Taryn
Great tips for LDR. I agree with the positive affirmations piece. It really keeps conversations going.
owengigg
Nice post Rhea. Communications are definitely really important and sometimes in long-term relationships we can fall into the trap of taking everything for granted.
Samar
Communication and sharing things with each other is really very important and the key to all the relationships.
aisasami
I haven’t been in a relationship for more than 10 years. But, communications is the backbone of any type of relationship.
Alexandra Cook
I have a friend whose in a long distance relationship for 10 years and she is now happily married with the same man. Communication and loyalty is the key.