I agree with “what you are now is the summary of all your experiences.” How you behave and your outlook in life is how these past circumstances had mold you. We fall victim to our flaws unseeing how big our ego is. Taking out our ego from the equation can be sometimes, well most of the time painful.  I admit our ego protects us from any harm. While it may be a good thing, but it developed some defense mechanism that blocked us from growing.

Life Audit

Many of us tend to overthink what lies across and set too much expectations. Sometimes we close ourselves from listening and believe it’s all about “US”. For an instance, beliefs and values comes in many forms. It doesn’t mean everyone is all like minded as you are. Most of us encounters the opposite, still it didn’t make others as a less person. When ego blocks your progress, it fuels your character. It means having a strong opinion, being right, morals and self- experiences. In workplace, usual norms are if you’ve been in the business for quite long, they project this image of a person who knows it all. Learning stops and Immaturity kicks in.

Our actions also have an influence from our thoughts and feelings. It leads to our behavior as a result. When everyone agrees and you tend to disagree, will you still be positive? Humans are sensitive in nature. We protect what is ours and worry about others real intention is.  Let’s say a friend who checks you out if you need help, you in return dismissed the idea; thinking that your friend thinks you can’t handle the situation. Regularly, we incline to be attached to a lot of things that surrounds us. It can be from work or relationship. We put to much value thus we become insensible of what others see.

A man once told Buddha, “I want happiness.” Buddha replied: “First remove ‘I’; that’s ego. Then remove ‘want’; that’s desire. And now all you’re left with is happiness.”

Conclusion

How far can you go? or when to step back, It’s the time you complain frequently and being unforgiving is your hallmark. Ego is not always a bad thing, it’s what defines you and your individuality. I find no fault having the momentum, dedication and the buzz. However, don’t be disoriented with ego from arrogance. I believe holding grudges won’t get us anywhere either. Get over yourself and see the bigger picture. When all you have left is your pride it doesn’t mean forgiveness doesn’t always mean re connection. You can’t change the world anyway. Transition always begins with us; we don’t owe it to anyone.

Our ego is like a balloon; as we mature it expand, it stretch when we refuse, and it burst when we hit the lowest point of our lives. – Rhea Constantino

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Solace by Rhea

Duchess of Sunshine, Ambassador of Positive Vibes & Chief Idea Officer

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